heart broken

obrova · 05-11-2008, 11:46 AM

i have some problems with my guy, and thats why i write here now.. i have a question.. he havent let me know about him for very very long time, and last time he told me that he cant use his mobile phone or internet, ebcause he didnt pass his exams.. this exams should allow him his travel to the Canana, where he wanted to get visa to come here...i dont know if i can believe him.. is that truth? if you live in UAE and you didnt pass an exam you cant be conneceted with the world? he told me that he havent let his family about him too,..and these exams are exams in english.. i really dont know what should i think about that.. please help me

thanx a lot

sandra · 05-11-2008, 12:06 PM

...Mens,mens ,mens....always some problems with them....I think that he always could find a way to send you sms....from friend mobile phone...he can go in internet caffe...etc.I am not expert,but just believe him,that is VERY,VERY,VERY IMPORTANT!!!!!!!!

obrova · 05-11-2008, 04:05 PM

thats why i m asking.. i cant getwhy he cant ask someone to let me know about whats going on.. its really strange.. i really dont know what to do.. i m sad.. and crazy about that...i m worrying

NPazarka · 05-12-2008, 04:24 AM

I think he wants to end this relationship. If you truly love someone, you'll always find some sort of way to stay in touch.

Sherine · 05-12-2008, 06:12 AM

be careful of this situation........

obrova · 05-12-2008, 10:22 AM

my problem is that we are not together.. its net love.. i m from slovakia and he lives in Abu Dhabi-UAE... i really really really dont know what should i think...last time we were talking he sent me a song called Breathlees by Shayne Ward... i ll copy a lyrics here....

If our love was a fairy tale
I would charge in and rescue you
On a yacht baby we would sail
To an island where we'd say I do

And if we had babies they would look like you
It'd be so beautiful if that came true
You don't even know how very special you are

Chorus

You leave me breathless
You're everything good in my life
You leave me breathless
I still can't believe that you're mine
You just walked out of one of my dreams
So beautiful you're leaving me
Breathless

And if our love was a story book
We would meet on the very first page
The last chapter would be about
How I'm thankful for the life we've made

And if we had babies they would have your eyes
I would fall deeper watching you give life
You don't even know how very special you are

Chorus

You leave me breathless
You're everything good in my life
You leave me breathless
I still can't believe that you're mine
You just walked out of one of my dreams
So beautiful you're leaving me
Breathless

You must have been sent from heaven to earth to change me
You're like an angel
The thing that I feel is stronger than love believe me
You're something special
I only hope that I'll one day deserve what you've given me
But all I can do is try
Every day of my life

Chorus

You leave me breathless
You're everything good in my life
You leave me breathless
I still can't believe that you're mine
You just walked out of one of my dreams
So beautiful you're leaving me
Breathless

You leave me breathless
You're everything good in my life
You leave me breathless
I still can't believe that you're mine
You just walked out of one of my dreams
So beautiful you're leaving me
Breathless

and everytime when we get in touch he tells me nice words, but i really dont know if he doesnt lie me, and just wants to make a fool of me...please, is that truth that people in UAE cant use mobile phones, when they dont pass the exams, which could allow them to travel somewhere??? thanx ..

Sherine · 05-12-2008, 11:43 AM

i have seen the words of this song before... if he gave you this as his feelings then OMG girl he is in love or smitten with you, beware taht too

he could just like you a lot but not anymore, it could not go anymore

m.t · 05-12-2008, 11:33 PM

oh long distances are always problems .. don't ya all think that negative!

it is also very good possible that he do care about you but that he just can not handle the great distance between you

but that about that he can not connect with you could never be true .. what the school took his phone and go to his house to take the internet away?

seems a little unlikely..and like somebody else said he could also ask his friend neighbour or just someone on the street if e really wants to

just keep asking maybe he will tell

good luck

NPazarka · 05-14-2008, 07:02 AM

Don't believe what a guy tells you but rather look at the things he does for you .. (or doesn't do in this case :-/ ).

istanbulgal · 05-14-2008, 10:52 AM

Mere words are empty and meaningless unless his actions match his words.

What he told you is complete nonsense by the way.

buddy4 · 05-31-2008, 01:28 PM

Well i dont know how to say this but let decrypt what your boyfriend just said or meant
(A) he failed in exam and his parents wont let him waste his time on net or mobile .
OR
(B) He needs his space and he is just making excuses.

And girl listen good to "SHERINE".

caricature · 05-31-2008, 01:42 PM

ahoj , citala som ze si zo slovenska , ako to s vami pokracuje? dozvedela si sa nieco nove?

obrova · 06-02-2008, 04:44 PM

hmm.. i really dont know, whats going on.. last time he was online and he told me that there was no second without me in his mind.. really i dont know.. how could he be online then if he cant now???its strange.. he said that he could use his phone when he gets his results.. and it was for a long time ago i think.. some 2 weeks maybe...i just saw his face and he was very happy when he saw me.. i cant explain it, but its was very nice feeling.. he was looking at me which sooo nice way... his eyes were sparkling..i doont knooow, what should i think about that...it makes me crazy

caricature · 06-03-2008, 12:45 AM

how often are you in touch ? and how long is it like this ? that he cant use phone or net? and one more question

do u take it like relationship ? that you dont care for (maybe) other boys cause u feel ,,in relationship" with him .....

obrova · 06-03-2008, 05:00 AM

soo.. we are together not very often recently...it was much more better before we were every day in touch... its been some months...by january maybe...this alst questuion is great question :P well, maybe i take it like that, becasue if someone ask me out or something like that, i go rather with my friends... i can say that boys like me, but i dont care about them..maybe i m wrong, i dont know..

buddy4 · 06-03-2008, 11:22 AM

This happens very often obrove Its called "STATUS QUo" , it means we like things as it is or in most cases as it was we just dont want to change we like the same chair same pillow ......we think ( or we are built to think that way) that new things are bad.
Go on try something new dont be like that ...you can get much more in love life and you deserve it.
And first of all plz tell your boyfriend how you are feeling ,half of the conflict between partners dont even arise if they just tell how they feel to each other. Go on tell him how you feel if he is really a good guy i wont think their would be any problems, sometimes boyz just dont understand girls feelings maybe he doesnt know that he is treating you any different and tell him what you wants from him.......let him know

LIFE IS TOO SHORT TO BE LITTLE

obrova · 06-03-2008, 02:20 PM

well buddy, i would like to tell him everything what i m feeling, but how can i tell him if i dont have any chance for doing that?? its impossible .. at least for now..

NPazarka · 06-03-2008, 04:07 PM

It's not his fault that you're driving yourself crazy over this but your own.
Since he's your boyfriend (I suppose) you have the right to demand certain things but if he's not willing to give in a little, you need to ask yourself what type of guy you're dealing with?
Love requires that the both of you do some efforts/make some sacrifices for your relationship but if you don't see eachother often or if you talk rarely to eachother .. this means that you can't consider yourself to be in a relationship.

caricature · 06-03-2008, 04:25 PM

i think you should start to think if its relationship or not ....because like u wrote its from january in this way and i think its too long time for no change in his possibility to contact you ......
its not good comparison , but im in relationship for long distance , and one time , we had some problems with connection and i was sad about the distance, connection and so , and my boyfriend told me , that he would do everything to stay in touch with me , and he would find any way to listen me whatever happen ....its like this....i tried , he tried as we could and we went through it .....

i just wanted to say that its more than one month u arent in connection (am i right?) and maybe he should try more, and u maybe dont be blind because he is telling sweet and romantic words......what he is doing is more important.....
do u think he takes it as relationship and doesnt care for some girls? (i just ask to know better whats going on)

Sherine · 06-04-2008, 06:32 AM

hey, are you ok??? really you have to move past this because if you do not you will end up like me, likeing a boy who suddenly dissappears and you never hear from him again and you spend months or years wondering where he is and it becomes obession and you make a point to go and find him and then maybe you find him and he is married and has forgotten your name, forgotten your face, this is your choice to keep wondering where he is but remember this, you have to forget, forget all things bad all people bad all sad things, because if you dwell on these things it will be your end....... and honestly i am worried for you because i know what this can do to your head, and your heart and your soul, do not loose your identity pls

obrova · 06-04-2008, 06:41 AM

everything would be bettre if i had a chance to talk with him.. we could explain the things and problems and everything what on his mind and mine too.. but in this way, that i cant do anything its the worst... theres nothing what can i do.. its just his will.. and how i see he doesnt care... or maybe he cares, but really cant do anything.. its strange because he is not small boy, he is independent, he doesnt live with his family, theres noone who should he obey.. and i know, if he really really wanted he would try to find a way how to get in touch with me...thats what makes me sad..if you ask me if he takes it like realtionship, i can tell you just - ask him...he knows the ebst.. i dont know anything....

Sherine · 06-04-2008, 06:50 AM

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Originally Posted by obrova

everything would be bettre if i had a chance to talk with him.. we could explain the things and problems and everything what on his mind and mine too.. but in this way, that i cant do anything its the worst... theres nothing what can i do.. its just his will.. and how i see he doesnt care... or maybe he cares, but really cant do anything.. its strange because he is not small boy, he is independent, he doesnt live with his family, theres noone who should he obey.. and i know, if he really really wanted he would try to find a way how to get in touch with me...thats what makes me sad..if you ask me if he takes it like realtionship, i can tell you just - ask him...he knows the ebst.. i dont know anything....

you sound like me and i am sorrry because i really know your feelings, pls forget this boy.... and if you need talk i am here, if he is independent then he could talk to you anytime he wanted am serious, even if he had studies he could stilll make time even just to say i am busy...... so just protect your heart, lock it up and keep it safe.... and clear your mind and spend sometime just forgetting him

buddy4 · 06-04-2008, 11:35 AM

Their is this quote in holy bible
"God please give me power to change the i can change"
" And the strength to accept the things i cant change"

Advice is something we seek when we know what we want to do and we just need someone to second our decision. obrova you already knows what you wants to do just do it , you know that he is playing games with you but you dont wants to accept it ..............ooh comeon girl be brave and belive me you will get over it very soon "NEVER EVER WASTE YOUR TIME THINKING ABout THE THINGS YOU CANT CHANGE".
If you think all day about him .....like what he would have done or said or something like it will only make you miserable and IT WONT CHANGE anything.
Breakups are always difficult and i hope you wont have to cope with it.
And comeon give me a smile you are too good to be said and we are all your friends you can tell us anything you can mail us twice a day and you will have the replie you can talk to "Sherine" and it will definately help .
I bet you can find hundreds like him poor champ dont know what he is missing let him be the victim .

" Good lover is always one who loves you"
" Not the one YOU love " always remember this.

And dont feel bad i am just one P.M away.

obrova · 06-04-2008, 11:55 AM

hmm.. thanx Sherine .. if it was as easy as its said.. my problem is that i dont wnt to forget.. maybe i m silly, and in love more than i should be, but what can i do?:...first than i would forget him, i need to talk to him.. my question is: hooow???

obrova · 06-04-2008, 12:01 PM

buddy.. thaanx a lot..it means a lot to me .. really.. i m so thankful...maybe youre all right, and he is just playing.. and i m just believing him and i m wrong...maybe i should change my mind, but it would be very very difficult for me..

Sherine · 06-04-2008, 12:15 PM

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Originally Posted by obrova

hmm.. thanx Sherine .. if it was as easy as its said.. my problem is that i dont wnt to forget.. maybe i m silly, and in love more than i should be, but what can i do?:...first than i would forget him, i need to talk to him.. my question is: hooow???

you do not need to talk to him to forget