Name this song please!!

I was listening to this song on the radio the other day.
I can't really remember the tune or lyrics... but I remember what it was about and I was wondering if you could help me out.
I heard it on a hip hop/ r & b or country station.. I can't even remember the station.. I'm bad

its about- a woman singing about how she needs to find herself and get her stuff together and then she can get back with her love. she says they can still cuddle and kiss and if he gets lonely while sleeping he could still sleep with her...

I don't know if this will help.. but try!

Do you think it could be "Big Girls Don't Cry" by Fergie? look for it in youtube and tell me if I'm wrong, please.