popular song from ametal band with female frontman (more info)

I remember most of the song but not the song nor the band. The video clip is the the band /female singer in restrain vest/bathtub -she drowns - her father storms in to save her ? . She is skinny(am like emmo short haircut ? ). Song starts with you can't .... again 2nd verse starts with push me up, hold me down ...

This song?

"Damage" by Fit For Rivals
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xusC01JShvU